The last three years have been the most difficult years of my life due to my wife getting diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. Traveling to Mexico for treatment and a lumpectomy, a year later a mastectomy, and now metastasized cancer in her bones and other parts of her body. As a family, we made the choice to put our careers to the side and focus on funding her treatments with our savings. After thousands and thousands of dollars going towards her healing, we have depleted our accounts. We have managed to keep on track with her treatments with the help of community, friends, and family. As a Man, I have struggled with this but at the same time feel a tremendous sense of gratitude. At times, I have felt out of control, powerless, and there have been numerous times where I had to swallow my pride and ask for help. I’m in the process of rebuilding and continuing with my career and the vision I have for my life while I support my wife’s process of healing. It has not been easy but we trust that we will have our needs met.
For years before her diagnosis, we were planning to sell our home and move into a bigger space where we can possibly bring in another child but my wife is not able to birth due to the medication that she is on. We decided to move forward with the sale of our home as we found a property with two homes on one lot. Because of our financial state and her health, we had no business making this move but my Father in law offered to help. It was perfect as my Father in law would live in one house and my family in the other. It was a win-win for all. Our vision is to use our home for community events and possibly adopt a child in the future. My Father in law is funding the construction of the two homes and I’m helping with the managing of the project. Thinking of the possibilities is exciting and I look forward to our new home.
What now? I have been challenged spiritually, mentally, physically, financially, and socially. There have been times where I have gone to the edge of my thoughts to the point where I thought I was losing my mind and losing touch with myself. My spiritual practice has been a savior. In my darkest times, I have found a tiny space of emptiness and that has been my doorway to my sanity. That emptiness is why I practice meditation and being present. When life gets chaotic and dark, it’s almost impossible to connect with that emptiness but the more you practice, the better chance you have of connecting with it. That empty space is who we truly are, a field of possibilities.
For this beginning part of 2020, I will be coaching myself through my own program, The Hart Method. I will be documenting my process and sharing it with you on social media. I will be sharing my journey of how the 8 maxims of The Hart Method will apply to all aspects of my life in mind, body, and spirit as I move forward toward my goals, vision, and intention. I’m excited to share, be transparent, authentic, and vulnerable. I hope that you follow my journey and that you receive some value in it for yourself as you move forward in your life. 2020, the year of moving the vision forward. Stay connected!